The Second Date Okay to Go for the First Kiss?

Is The Second Date Okay to Go for the First Kiss

Is The Second Date Okay to Go for the First Kiss? “Pretty standard. I (28) met a girl (23) at a party, hit it off, asked for her number. Went for drinks on a first date, went pretty well. Now I’m basically meeting her for drinks and then we’ll go for a walk in the park (to go visit pokestops, I just.. don’t ask, I’m trying here).

Now I kind of messed up my last (and first) relationship by being too slow. Is the second date a good time to go for the first kiss?”

What a great question. I love what you are doing for your second date too.

It looks like you are off to a great start so far. The second date is a great time to go for the first kiss. Even the first date would have been okay!

The fact the she is meeting you for this park date is a great sign of her interest and attraction, and that’s really the only thing you need to make a move.

The thing is you’ll never be 100% sure, but just her presence should be enough to assume the attraction, and you kinda gotta take it from there and sort of “take a leap of faith.”

Women love confidence above all else. So go ahead and assume the attraction and make your move!

At the end of the day, a woman will forgive you for being bold or dumb, but she will never forgive you for being a coward.

Reddit Thread:
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/65ru4a/is_the_second_date_okay_to_go_for_the_first_kiss/

What’s up guys? Kyle Milligan of realkylemilligan.com here and we’re gonna answer a question from Reddit! I’m mixing it up, coming off Quora.

The question is, “Is the second date okay to go for the first kiss? It’s pretty standard, I, 28, met a girl, 23, at a party. Hit it off, asked for her number. In good shape so far. Went for drinks on the first date, went pretty well. Going good. Now I’m basically meeting her for drinks and we’ll go for a walk in the park to go visit Pokestops. I just, don’t ask, I’m trying here. Now, I kinda messed up my last and first relationship by being too slow. Is the second date a good time to go for the kiss?”

It looks like you’re off to a really solid start so far there, Dennis the Dutchie. And I think absolutely, the second date is absolutely appropriate to go for the first kiss. If you and the girl are kind of already feeling each other and have a good rapport, the first date would have been a fine time to go for the first kiss.

So basically whenever you structure this, it’s crazy the way dating works because it’s not so much the amount of time or even the quality of time you spend together, but the number of interactions. This is like, scientifically proven. The number of interactions you have, whether they be short or long, it determines the progress of the relationship at the start.

For instance, if I hang out with a girl for an hour, and then I hang out with her one more time for another hour and then I hang out with her again for another hour, those three hangouts are way better than like, one hangout of 10 hours.

First Kiss Date

How some people imagine the magic of their first kiss…

It’s weird how this works but the fact that you hung out at the party is one interaction, just think of it like that. Then you went out for drinks, that’s two interactions. You’re actually really far along in the game.

Now you’re gonna go out and visit Pokestops in the park. I think that’s awesome because it’s actually like a fun thing to do. You can kinda move around and change scenery and just kinda have fun with it instead of being in like a still, boring place. This is an awesome, awesome idea.

Kudos to you, smart move man. Most people are so boring, they just go to dinner or something lame. This is awesome. So yeah, go do this, go have fun.

This is technically, you’d call like your third date of sorts. It’s your third interaction and you’re going to be changing scenery. The time you start at the front of the park is almost like one and then later you guys went to the Quad or whatever. Some other area of the park, the playground. That’s almost like another interaction entirely.

You’re in good shape, second date is an awesome time to go for the first kiss. Some people are giving some really cool advice, like I see right here, wait until the end. If there’s a good moment that’s not the end you can go it for it there too. Do it when the vibe feels right and preferably the middle.

I’m gonna side with “Don’t Hate The Player” here on that one. I think you act when the tension is hot. You act when there’s the moment you know, and if this is, you say your second relationship. You messed up your last and first relationship by being too slow. So this is your second relationship.

You probably haven’t had too much experience with first kisses then. So essentially what you want to do is just kinda chat with her. And you probably wanna be somewhere where you guys can kinda sit, like a park bench would be ideal, it’d be great. Then you guys are talking, you’re chatting. Do more listening than talking.

You said “I’m trying here”, so I assume you’re kind of, you know going for Pokestops, you might be kind of a quirky dude. So at this time when she’s doing a lot of talking and you guys are chillin, you kinda like, be cool at this moment. Be cool, be stoic. Be composed and just listen to her.

First Kiss over coffee and a table

The first kiss is hard enough. Don’t make it more difficult by throwing a table in the middle…

Let the conversation begin to lull. Go ahead, whenever she says something, ask questions, stay involved and invest, but don’t over-contribute at this time.

I’m setting you up for the first kiss here, kinda just, when the conversation lulls a little bit dude and you guys are making the eye contact and the tension is kinda building, you’re not really saying much and she’s talking and things kind of start to slow down.

You’re in position to kiss at that point. Just because she’s going out on a second date with you, and going out on a walk for Pokestops and stuff like that means that she’s into you dude. You’re set up, you’re good to go, you’re clear. All you really gotta do is, like these guys say, wait for the right moment. You have to create that moment.’

You create that moment by shutting the hell up, okay? You shut up, get somewhere where she’s talking. Don’t talk too much, just kinda joke with her and be cool and be chill. Just let her do all of the talking. When the conversation lulls dude, you are clear man, you are good to go.

Go for the kiss. And it will never feel 100% right and you’ll never be 100% certain. You just have to do it and kinda just be like, I’m gonna kiss her and just go kiss her. And when this happens you’re gonna win.

Even if she ducks the kiss and gives you the cheek, anything like that, she’s going to be impressed with your bravado. A woman will never forgive you for being a little bitch. They will forgive you for being too bold. Keep that in mind. Fortune favors the bold, all those old idioms and sayings.

I really think you’re in great shape. I’m excited, I hope you’ll respond to this and tell me how it went.

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The Second Date Okay to Go for the First Kiss?
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"I kind of messed up my last relationship by being too slow. Is the second date a good time to go for the first kiss?" The first date would have been okay!

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I'm Kyle Milligan, I write New Adult Books that don't suck. i.e. The Hang-Ups and Hangovers series. I like to write about the challenges of being a single twenty-something in today's hookup culture. My blog offers Dating Advice For Men.

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