How Do Guys Get the Attention of Girls They Like?

How do guys get the attention of the girl they like

Today I answer a cool question I found on Quora: How Do Guys Get Girls’ Attention?

The short and sweet answer: They DON’T! Check out the video and transcript below!

What’s up guys, Kyle Milligan of realkylemilligan.com here, and we’re going to answer a question from Quora. The question is “How do guys seek the attention of the girl they like?”

I don’t have any information about the question asker here, I don’t know if it’s a guy, a girl, an 18 year old, a 30 year old. But it seems like this person wants to understand how do guys seek the attention of the girl they like.

Well, there’s two sides to this, I don’t know if you’re asking for HOW should you or HOW do guys? “How do guys,” is probably a girl asking like, “Is a guy into me?”

So, how do some guys seek the attention of the girl they like? They can send like fruity texts or buy her something, give her compliments or just generally hover around and be creepy. Notice all these things I say with a pretty negative light.

That’s because guys seeking attention is negative. It’s bad. It should not happen. That’s not the man’s role to be seeking attention and that kinda junk. It’s a man’s role to take action. If a guy likes a girl, he should not seek her attention. He should go get her attention. And that’s what men are supposed to be, doers.

If you want a girl to find you attractive, you have to be confident, direct, and then congruent in your actions, to kind of reinforce your confidence and directness. So if you want the attention of a girl, you go get it. You do this by walking up to her and having a conversation or just saying something like, “Hey would you like to go on a date with me?” Something like that, you go and you get the answer that you seek.

Hovering around or just trying to get their attention is just a disgusting thing for a guy to do. It’s a feminine thing for a guy to do. It’s not masculine. Don’t do that, men should be doers.

Once you ask her, you have to be a man about the response. Dating is a numbers game, romance is a numbers game. You’re sampling as many potential suitors or matches in your love life to find one that actually is the absolute best fit for you. Let’s say you want the attention of a girl and it doesn’t go the way you want.

You go up and say, “Hey would you like to go on a date with me?” She can say yes. Alright, that’s awesome. She may say no. That’s not a big deal. You go on to the next one. You see how much time you’ve saved by just finding out the answer right away and being direct and confident in yourself?

Being okay with “maybe she doesn’t;” it doesn’t mean anything about me if she doesn’t want to go out with me. Maybe I’m just not her type or something. It might have something to do with her. Maybe she’s got a boyfriend, someone she’s into. It’s confidence in that “I don’t care if I get rejected.” It’s not that big of a deal. It doesn’t say anything about me as a person.

This is a very weak thing to do, seeking attention in the way that this question is worded. And again, I have to make assumptions because there’s really nothing to go on here. But yeah, guys should not seek the attention of the girl they like, they should go approach her and find out if that girl is interested in him. That’s what a man would do. Remember, confidence, directness, congruence. That’s what it means to be a man.

Original Quora Thread: https://www.quora.com/How-do-guys-seek-the-attention-of-the-girl-they-like

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I'm Kyle Milligan, I write New Adult Books that don't suck. i.e. The Hang-Ups and Hangovers series. I like to write about the challenges of being a single twenty-something in today's hookup culture. My blog offers Dating Advice For Men.

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