Category Archives for Letters to James

Austin Powers Should Be All Men’s Role Model – Here’s Why

Austin Powers Should Be All Men's Role Model - Here's Why

James, Last time we spoke you were charged up about a girl who wasn’t responding to your text messages the way you’d like. In your two last messages to me, you dropped the F bomb, the S bomb, and the B bomb. I wanted to address your frustrations in this letter. I won’t shame you […]

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11 First Date Tips for Men in Their Twenties

Eleven Game Changing First Date Tips for Men in Their Twenties

James, It’s time to talk what to do on first dates. In my last letter I told you about all the classic mistakes most men make that you should avoid. A lot of misinformation pushes men to do WAY more than they should for a first date. As a result, a lot of guys are […]

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Don’t Buy Into Girl’s Misconceptions About What They Want on First Dates

Don’t Buy Into Girl’s Misconceptions About What They Want on First Dates

James, There is a TON of misinformation about first dates out there. Stupid, STUPID advice telling you to be clever, pick something romantic, do something fun, etc, etc. You and I both know you should make the first date about yourself to ensure you are comfortable and find a girl who is a great fit […]

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Go on More Dates and Build Your Dating Experience Using a Quota

Go on More Dates and Build Your Dating Experience Using a Quota

James, It’s been a pleasure helping you through this dating stuff so far. Can you believe this is our 17th letter?! I’m very pleased with our conversations regarding your progress. You’re a terrific guy and you will make some lucky girls very happy soon. That’s right I said girls, with an “s.” That’s what I want […]

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How to Impress A Girl and Stop All Flaky Behavior in Two Easy Steps

How to Impress A Girl and Stop All Flaky Behavior in Two Easy Steps

James, In my last letter I gave you feedback about why a girl who gave you her number to hang out still flaked on your date. While it’s tempting to get emotional or angry over a flake, it’s not a big deal. It happens to everybody. I’m sure even your friends flake on you sometimes. […]

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One Basic Reason Why Women Flake That You Need to Know

One Basic Reason Why Women Flake That You Need to Know

James, So she cancelled the date at the last minute, huh? Go figure. I’m not upset and you shouldn’t be either. Not that I didn’t have faith in you, but I had already planned for this and was ready to write this specific letter. You see, James, you are still early in your journey. Even guys who “get […]

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3 Surprising Reasons the First Date Should Be All About the Guy

3 Surprising Reasons the First Date Should Be All About the Guy

James, You got a number! Congrats! And from the very girl you missed at the party last weekend! I’m impressed and proud. Now that you have a girl’s number, today’s letter is dedicated to the first date. First, I want to congratulate you on the things you did RIGHT. Let’s look over your recount of the […]

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The Secret Benefits of Getting Shot Down 30 Times in Your Twenties

The Secret Benefits of Getting Shot Down 30 Times in Your Twenties

James, I’m sitting here with my dark roast coffee ready to go nuts about the dos and don’ts of body language with meeting women. But then I thought about the questions you had asked recently and it him me: You haven’t asked any questions lately. Not one messed up conversation. Not one corny opener. Not one story. […]

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How to Manage Your Voice Pitch To Keep Women’s Attention

How to Manage Your Voice Pitch To Keep Womens Attention

James, I was walking into Target to pick up the board game Monopoly when I saw something that made me cringe. A mother with two young kids was yelling at them to hurry up and leave. The troublemaker was a little boy who had stopped to look at toys or candy or something. What his mother […]

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Never Run Out of Things to Talk About With A Girl Using These 3 Sales Questions

Never Run Out of Things to Talk About With A Girl Using These 3 Sales Questions

James, I’ve talked a lot about how you should approach talking to women. I’ve already told you to be confident and direct when saying hi to a girl. I’ve beat the confidence horse to death by now haven’t I? Let’s talk some today about what successfully talking to girls looks like. Specifically, things to talk […]

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